Deepening the Bond with Your Horse
A Guide to Building Trust and Connection
Welcome to another blog post! This time, I've teamed up with equine relationship expert Catherine Roy-Stanley at Balance and Align to explore how to strengthen the bond between you and your horse. Building a strong and meaningful connection with your horse goes beyond the saddle. It involves understanding their needs, communicating effectively, and nurturing a bond built on trust and respect.
“As a relationships coach, I have seen lots of humans and horses revolutionise their relationships together through small, easy shifts that prove to be extremely powerful. Often we get consumed with wanting to go ‘all in’, and change everything in order to improve the relationship with our horses. But in reality, if you liken it to changing your relationship with a friend, family member or partner - the big gestures are great, but it’s in the small everyday interactions that the real changes are made. Those are the ones that are sustainable and meaningful. Even just in the way you greet them in the morning, or becoming aware of what you bring to the barn. Taking a moment to breathe when you are about to react, or spending time with them without asking any questions. These are the changes that really change the game. Many of my clients have found their horses look to them more, and start feeling more safe and connected. They can say “what?! But I don’t feel like I have changed much.” That's because it is in the softness that allows you & your horse to see each other. If you feel overwhelmed and don’t know where to start, that’s okay. Just like saying “thank you, I appreciate you” to someone in your life can light them up more than a candle lit dinner, so can the small moments of connection with your horse. And remember, relationships are a constant practice, that are forever growing and evolving with you. Be open to getting it wrong, because you will learn from it, you won't know everything about yourself, let alone your horse, and that’s what makes it exciting! That gives you space to grow into. Trust the small moments, and the big ones will follow.” Cat.
We have put together a simple guide, we'll explore practical ways to deepen your connection with your equine companion.
1. Spend Quality Time Together:
Like any relationship, spending quality time is crucial. Grooming, hand-grazing, and just being present in their company can foster a sense of companionship. These activities also allow you to observe their behavior and build trust.
2. Connection Groundwork and Games:
Engaging in connection groundwork and playful games not only provides mental stimulation for your horse but also establishes clear communication. Connection groundwork involves exercises that promote understanding and trust, while games add an element of fun to your interactions.
3. Understanding Horsemanship and Engaging in "Horse Talk":
Immerse yourself in the principles of horsemanship, focusing on understanding your horse's natural behaviors and needs. Engage in "horse talk" by observing and responding to their body language, fostering a deeper level of communication beyond verbal cues. This mindful approach enhances the mutual understanding between you and your horse.
4. Establish Consistent Routines:
Horses thrive on routines. Establishing a consistent daily schedule for feeding, exercise, and rest helps your horse feel secure. Predictability in their environment builds trust, contributing to a deeper connection.
5. Positive Reinforcement:
Reward good behavior with positive reinforcement, whether it's a treat, praise, or a break during training. This encourages your horse to associate your presence with positive experiences, reinforcing the bond between you.
6. Listen to Your Horse:
Pay attention to your horse's preferences and dislikes. Some horses may enjoy a particular type of grooming or respond better to specific training techniques. Being attuned to their individual needs fosters a more personalized connection.
7. Take Your Time Riding (If Riding is a Significant Part of Your Human-Horse Relationship):
If riding plays a significant role in your connection, take your time to develop a comfortable and enjoyable riding experience. Listen to your horse's cues, be patient, and progress at a pace that suits both of you. This approach ensures that the riding component of your relationship aligns with the trust and understanding you've cultivated on the ground.
